Finding Balance

29 Dec

I haven’t been posting on this blog for a few months because I end this year a little more tentative than I began. In the beginning of Autumn this year, my dear son and hubby decided on “no more nuts”. This was followed by “no more raw smoothies”. Then “no more raw salads”. In other words, NO MORE RAW ANYTHING.

Gah, had I pushed them too far?

So, I started cooking more and more veggies: in soups, with dressing, steamed, boiled, baked, etc. And, I discovered that my family actually have increased their intake of veggies this way. Dead broccoli is the new fave around here and mushroom miso soup. Surprise, surprise – I even lost a few pounds without all the added fats from nuts.

Cooked to death Broccoli.  Boil till the broccoli breaks apart.  Dress with orange juice or balsamic vinegar, sea salt and olive oil.

Cooked to death Broccoli: boil till the broccoli breaks apart, dress with a mixture of orange juice or balsamic vinegar, sea salt and extra virgin olive oil. My son loves it!

But I’m still a firm believer in RAW, so I slowly but surely added back some old faves after a month or two. Without complaints, we are all enjoying raw fruit puddings for breakfast again, Japanese and Kale salads for pre-meals and lots of coconut smoothies. We are not quite as raw as I would like, but dare I say I have found a new kind of “balance”?

I don’t know how RAW families do it. How do they function in society? How do they enjoy being with family and friends who don’t eat the way they do? How do their kids relate to other kids in the community? My big guess is that they don’t… not really in the same capacity we do. My second guess is that husband and wife have to agree on diet and nutrition principles to make it work for the family. My third guess is that the parents have to impose and work hard to ingrain these beliefs at home (unless the children have allergies and sickness that inhibit their diets). I cannot imagine regular kids not wanting what other mainstream kids can have – unless they don’t have much of a relationship with other kids, and therefore have no knowledge base of what goes on “on the other side”.

My husband recently bought some Maine root beer, a package of cereal and a carton of soy milk. My son’s hoarding some Vegan candy canes and has a new obsession with gum (it was hard finding one he isn’t allergic to).

Our Xmas Experiment: will Santa prefer the processed candy the restaurant gave you or will he prefer the homemade Vegan cookies we baked?

Our Xmas Experiment: will Santa prefer the processed candy the restaurant gave you or will he prefer the homemade Vegan cookies we baked from scratch? We discovered that Santa prefers homemade cookies to processed candy… and even left a small bit behind.

As a Mama, it is hard to let go of control – especially in the kitchen. But this year, I found more peace and happiness at the dining table by relinquishing more control over my family’s diet. I still buy the groceries, prepare and cook our food. I still educate my family on food matters. But at the end of the day, I let go and allow them the freedom to choose what they want to eat.

A little discouraged one day, I asked my husband and son separately if they wanted to branch out from our Vegan diet, they both said “NO”. Are you sure? “YES!” Both look forward to their fave homemade organic and Vegan cooked foods: Mulligatawny Soup, Shepherd’s Pie, Japanese Buckwheat Noodles, Popcorn and Chocolate Chip Cookies. But I notice they too have their fave raw foods. My son was sick recently and only wanted to eat fruit. He prefers to start each day with bananas and he asks for fresh raw coconut milk almost everyday. He will eat a huge bowl of romaine lettuce. My hubby can drink a quart of green smoothie during a meal and he will keep going back for more salad.

I offer my family healthy food, I empower them with current food knowledge, and I model good eating habits. Then, I let go in peace.

9 Responses to “Finding Balance”

  1. Chris Cox December 29, 2012 at 9:37 am #

    It must be tough to deal with the balancing act. I can just imagine your repugnance to the soda and cereal! And I admire your ability to respect your family’s culinary desires.

    • CC December 29, 2012 at 2:53 pm #

      Thank you Chris!!! Hahaha… Yes repugnance is a good word. And I do want to respect their choices. Letting go feels good! ;). And you know what else feels even better? Being part of our community and family and friends’ lives without feeling we are putting anyone out because of our diet. 😉

  2. zoenfuego December 29, 2012 at 8:04 pm #

    It’s so great that you were willing to go with the flow of your family’s needs and desires while keeping it healthy. You rock!

    • CC December 29, 2012 at 8:21 pm #

      Thank you, Zoenfuego. I don’t know if I was able to go with the flow so easily! I eventually did… 😉 It is tough to find balance sometimes.

  3. Carmen Alvarez December 29, 2012 at 10:37 pm #

    The broccoli is so funny to look at and the way you discribe it cook to death make laugh loud. so so funny because I never cook it like that. funny really

    • CC December 29, 2012 at 11:02 pm #

      Glad I made you laugh!!! ;D

  4. Jaime C. Gonzalez December 30, 2012 at 9:24 am #

    I think you have a pretty good balance in the food you serve at home. As most things in life, one needs to find the compromise, the balance, so everyone is comfortable and happy. Dwayne

    • CC December 30, 2012 at 11:43 am #

      Thanks Dwayne!! 😉


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