In the last 6 months alone, it seems like my family and I have traveled non-stop to be with friends and extended family. These days, I feel like I am a bit of a pro when traveling with and dining out with loved ones who happen to be non-Raw Omnivores.
I wish I could tell you we did wonderfully: I ate 100% Raw Vegan Foods and my family kept up their 50% Raw Vegan diet. But we did not.
What we did a lot of instead was, what I call, nutritional compromising. Why? Well, believe it or not, for harmony’s sake. We love our friends and family dearly and being together with them means a lot to us. We didn’t want to alienate anyone… or ourselves.
I cannot say I was very much OK with all the nutritional compromising in the past few months… but I met Perry the other day who made me feel a whole lot better. He sold me a bottle of E3Live. I asked him if he was Raw Vegan. He said he used to be. “Why?” I asked. He said, his mother had cancer when he was growing up and foods were designated as BAD or GOOD, ALLOWED or NOT ALLOWED. So Young Perry rebelled. He would go behind his mother’s back, steal her money and buy the foods that were verboten at their house. Needless to say, he thought it was a good idea that I allow my son some slack.
Here is what I learned while traveling with Omnivore loved ones:
1. I always pack my family’s meals for road trips and national/international flights. Unfortunately, the food lasts only about 8 hours and after that we have to make do with what we are given or find at the other end of our trip.
2. On planes, we request either the Raw (not always available and this tends to be fruit or cut carrot and celery sticks) or Vegan (although some are cooked with many processed Vegan ingredients) options for flights.
3. Clearly, our family’s highly raw/unprocessed Vegan diet tends to go down the drain pretty much from the get-go.
4. We want to spend time and create strong bonds with our extended family and friends while traveling/visiting with them.
5. But, this means mealtimes more often than not emphasize non-raw and non-vegan foods.
6. We tend to eat out at mainstream restaurants a whole lot while traveling with others.
7. We have lengthy and careful discussions with servers about our family’s food preferences and allergies before ordering. It seems to us that waiters, on the whole, are not trained well on matters relating to Veganism or food allergies. Neither are they made aware of the repercussions of food allergies. Sometimes, the problem may be that they don’t properly convey diner’s requests to chefs in their kitchens. So, we like to take our time in our communication with them.
8. Raw Vegans are not the best for diners with nut and maple/agave allergies. After talking very carefully to servers about our son’s allergies, my son has had very bad vomiting spells after eating/drinking something at Cafe Gratitude in San Francisco and Quintessence in NYC. Needless to say, we are not going back to these 2 places to eat. I can, however, recommend The Farm in the Philippines, Good Life Café in South Carolina and Pure Food and Wine in NYC.
9. We tend to eat what our host provides. “When in Rome, do as the Roman’s do!” Right? As guests, we are really at the mercy of our host, especially when they want to treat us all the time and/or we are in a foreign country.
10. I have discovered that food allergies are difficult for others to understand.
11. The concept of Raw Vegan foods are even harder for many to grasp. I have had, many a time, cheese and bread on my “all Raw Vegan” salad or been offered regular hummus with cooked chickpeas.
12. Requests for Gluten- and Vegan-free food is akin to speaking a foreign language.
13. My son will want to eat what others are eating: i.e. the cooked or processed refined foods.
14. A loved one recently baked 6 loaves of maple syrup white wheat bread while we visited her for 2 weeks – even after I asked her to please stop at the first loaf. The breads just kept appearing though, which my son gladly ate and I tried to stop. She was thrilled of course to watch my son devour her bread. On the other hand, I was focused on his rashes (c/o maple sugar).
15. This Mama will compromise only to a certain extent.
16. If a kitchen and/or appliances are available, I supplement our family’s meals with fresh fruit for breakfast and fresh juices or green smoothies before a meal (that is if we have access to appliances and/or a kitchen).
17. If a kitchen is available and if possible, we eat ‘in’ as much as we can and I end up a Mama in the Kitchen with no holiday. But, I can’t complain! We minimize allergies this way.
18. You cannot simply trust labels. My son has even reacted to packaged Raw Vegan foods we have purchased while traveling to which, according to ingredients on labels, he isn’t allergic.
19. On every trip these past few months, my son has had some type of allergy, despite our efforts. He has been very mucus-y on the plane home twice.
20. Raw Vegan food options are not always available when eating with family and friends…or they are harder to come by when traveling or sanitation is an issue in certain countries. When eating at mainstream restaurants or at people’s homes sometimes simply boiled, steamed or stir fried veggies are the best and only options. In many health food stores in big cities, Raw Vegan Foods usually means a lot of packaged dehydrated foods… exactly the foods we try to avoid.
21. Raw Vegan food does not win over many people. Some of my loved ones returned home to eat SPAM with white rice after a beautiful lunch at The Farm, Philippines.
22. I, on the other hand, will have some type of food sensitivity after eating at a Raw Vegan restaurant: headaches, swelling or bloating from an excess of agave syrup, soy products, or nuts.
23. To minimize allergies or sensitivities, we order simply at Raw Food Restaurants: an abundance of green juices (not smoothies) or simple Salads, and avoid other foods altogether (unless the server/chef can be 100% clear on the ingredients used).
24. Cooked Vegan foods, on the other hand, have been the best way for us to introduce family and friends to the Vegan diet. My mother gave us a cooked Vegan party when we visited her. My friends thought they would have to lug their families to McDonald’s afterwards – but they admitted to loving the food by my Vegan Chef cousin! They all had second helpings of the healthy mains and the desserts! And no trip to McDonald’s afterwards!
25. Prepare yourself for negative comments from loved ones about your food. Yes, even those who say they understand and would love to be Raw Vegan. I have had an ugly grimace directed at my food with a “I would NOT like to eat that!”, “is that all?”, “how do you get your protein?”, “yuck! how do you eat that!” And all in front of my son too, who takes it all in.
26. People somehow forget about your family’s diet and lifestyle choice, no matter how close they are to you. I have had a platter of Steak placed under our noses blatantly at dinner with a smile and a “here, you will love this”; baked pastry treats full of syrup, butter and refined flour placed in front of my son while he, as most kids will, drools; salmon offered to us which they know was my son’s favourite fish before our kitchen turned Vegan.
27. The good outweigh the bad. What is important is that we are surrounded by people we love and who love us back.
28. By the end of the trip, I am always itching to return to my own kitchen, I can’t wait to shop at my own local health food store and I can’t wait to eat healthier food.
29. After returning home, it is always just a little harder to get my son to eat as healthily as he used to. And I am OK with this too because after traveling for the past 6 months, I know in a day or two, he’ll be asking for his fave smoothie and his fave kale salad!
30. And at the end of the day, I love what traveling does for our family.